These signs prove to be more than a difficult time when you are in a relationship for a while, there will inevitably be friction and tension. Some of greater and some of lesser importance. There may be days when you will not even want to see your partner. That will irritate you even the way he breathes. You may feel so stressed that it is difficult to separate if it is a difficult path in your marriage, relationship, or cohabitation, or if you are not happy at all.
To clarify that it is perfectly normal during a relationship to have moments of dissatisfaction. This does not mean that you have to divorce. In some cases, the conditions can be corrected after treatment, discussion, effort, and patience. In others, again, the best solution is separation.
But why is it so difficult to leave an unhappy relationship, even if we know it can not go on?
“There are many reasons for this, but the most important is fear ,” relationship counselor Ronica Arnold Branson told Oprah daily. “The fear of loneliness, of rejection, of the unknown.” Many people stay together, while not having a good time for the sake of children or to avoid criticism from their own people and society.
Ask yourself this question: “ If today were my last day on earth, would this be the relationship I wish I had? “Is this the relationship I deserve?”, The expert suggests. If your answer is no, then you should probably start thinking more about yourself.
If, on the other hand, you still have doubts, read below the signs that prove that you are in an unhappy relationship.
You do not fight at all
Common sense wants frequent quarrels as a red flag for relationship problems. This is true. It is true, however, that the complete absence of disagreement is not a healthy sign of a relationship. A lack of disagreement can indicate that the couple members have given up on the relationship and are not even trying to discuss what is bothering them.
You put your friends and family above everything
While it is important to have time with people outside of your relationship, it does matter if you constantly prefer to see others rather than your partner. If your relationship is healthy and happy, chances are you will miss your partner quite a bit. If you rely more on friends or family environment for your problems, then there is a problem. This means that not only have you lost the longing to see your partner, but also the security you felt with him.
You do not go out on a date
When the relationship was still in its infancy, you went out, spent a lot of time together, and tried to see each other very often. Then this frequency decreased, but you still longed to be seen. When this stops and you find excuses not to be with each other, the problems have already started.
You say you are very busy or tired from work, but is that true? When you avoid your relationship, you also avoid its problems, which will not be solved alone.
You do not have sex
This is a sign of a lack of intimacy and comfort. The couple no longer feels comfortable being closer and does not feel emotionally connected. And while a relationship without sex can survive, it’s best to communicate with your partner what is bothering you to find a solution together – whatever it is should be guided by the good mental health of both.
You feel lonely
The reason we enter into a relationship is to be “together” with someone. To share thoughts, moments, and memories. When you feel alone in a relationship, it means that you do not find what you are looking for. It may mean that your partner is not supportive or emotionally available.
It is very important in a relationship to be able to keep our element, but also to become a team. When the couple does not share feelings, victories, and failures then a big gap is created that is difficult to fill if no mutual effort is made.
You dream of being alone
You remember what your life was like before this relationship and you imagine how beautiful it would be to live alone again and be with other people sexually. If this is done once in a while, it is not bad. But if you are constantly thinking about what it would be like to be with someone else or to live completely alone, then maybe you need to reconsider your personal life.
There is no respect
Respect must be present in all areas of our lives and is an essential element of a happy relationship. If you notice that your partner or you are talking badly, underestimating each other, and not showing appreciation, then maybe things are not very good.
You are always on the defensive
Couples fight, but if the other person is always to blame and you never make a mistake (or vice versa) then something is wrong. Accusations are a type of defense that does not allow us to hear or accept the other point of view. When you are in defense for a long time, you always try to justify your position and prove that you are right. This is another way to sabotage your relationship.
You live parallel lives
As a couple, lives should be “tangled”. Yes, as we said, everyone should have their own time, but if there is nothing to do together, you do not develop a company, then one of them is unhappy.
You do not admire your partner
You underestimate him or break out on him. Treating your partner as inferior is a sign of misery and alienation. Either you talk to him abruptly, or you comment negatively on his work, or you just make offensive grimaces, and you have probably already started to leave the relationship. Experts place this behavior on top of those that lead to divorce.
