Personal plan and triangle of life: Learn to be what you want to be

If you have already prepared your Personal Strategic Plan, then you have decided to participate in its creation and I congratulate you for it; therefore, it is well worth providing you with strategies that will help you on this journey. These tools are framed in the four axes of development: Ethical, Spiritual, Social, Economic, and Authority. By developing the four axes, you guarantee the existence of balance in your development and allow you to consolidate your life.

Authority Development Strategies

Take control of your life

You are never bigger than in adversity.

Disraeli

To take control of your life, we need to turn to the triangle of life that Bob Trask proposes in his human development training. Bob, has an organization in the United States, which is dedicated to guiding human beings toward the search for happiness, in harmony with the “Great Spirit”; as he calls God. I present to you a triangle, which I will use to teach you how to develop your daily life.

The triangle forms a pattern for you to guide your life. Note that there are two paths:

1. The first path is the external one which is identified as being a path to success.

Being responsible in your life means that when an event occurs, and this event is important in your formation, it will most likely lead you to a state of fear. To do this you will have to move from fear (the positive motivator) through risk, to reach triumph (a place of merit and success) then follow the love for yourself that leads you to rest (a place of restoration and restoration) and finally you will go through self-examination to get back to fear. Note that the arrows are by the rotation of the hands of the clock.

1. The second path is identified as the path of mediocrity (it is the path within the triangle).

Being irresponsible means moving from fear (negative motivator) to the inner part of the triangle, leading to anxiety. This state inevitably causes paralysis; being paralyzed you will present an attitude of evasion where you will lack enthusiasm, which consequently will cause you boredom.

In the state of boredom, self-esteem drops, and an attitude of unworthiness is created in your mind that will activate the greatest load that a man can carry, and this is guilt.

Feeling guilty will cause you anxiety again and start the cycle. Notice that the arrows are counterclockwise.

Fear ( located at the top of the triangle) includes feelings of fear, confusion, nervousness, anticipation, anxiety, and suspense. These are emotions that we generally avoid. Most of us have been taught that fear is a negative feeling and when it reaches us we think that something is wrong in our lives. The truth is much simpler; fear is our main motivator.

The challenge in these cases is to control the fear to prevent you from entering a state of panic. This state of panic occurs when fear blocks you from moving forward. Fear produces adrenaline rushes in the bloodstream, causes you to become alert, and prepares you to decide to act in one way or another.

When the feeling of fear invades you, you have two alternatives:

1. Face fear and act.
2. Ignore him and remain inactive.

When you decide to face fear, you do so by taking a risk relative to the very fear you are feeling. For example, if there was an “arrogant” person in front of you and you have to solve a work problem with her; according to your experience, it is possible that you can feel fear. This attitude gives as an alternative the possibility that you take a risk: Face this person and talk to him. Or you can choose to remain inactive. The results of this decision have a determining impact throughout your life. If you decide to take a risk, you must show courage, which many times you might think you don’t have. Here, your growth will depend on taking action and taking risks. Remember: If not today, when; if not you who? One way to have courage is to convince yourself, through positive affirmations, that you can overcome fear, that you are safe, and that you are strong, as well as understand that the magnitude of the risk is always exaggerated, many times due to your cultural patterns (beliefs).

The risk appears on the right side of the triangle, connected to an arrow that automatically leads to a win. When you decide to take a risk relative to your fear, you always have a win. What would happen if you decided not to risk it, hiding and remaining inactive? Fear becomes anxiety and pulls you into the triangle where there is no action and paralyzes you. Paralysis appears inside the triangle and the arrows go in the opposite direction. In life, you can’t get away from fear, it just can’t be done. Understanding this, you can now decide if you allow fear to motivate you or paralyze you. Decide to take the risk and speak to that “arrogant” person, and you will automatically become a winner. Did that person agree to engage in a conversation with you? Probably not, but your attitude means that you went beyond your fear and in doing so, won a major victory. You now have a new concept of yourself, more confidence, and self-respect, and you took new and positive steps in your growth by taking a risk. You are now able to realize that you are bigger than your fears.

In the trump angle, you also have two options that you can choose from. They are the same options you had with fear :

1. Act positively. It means that you take the stance of being positively active to control your life and be the creator of your experiences; stay positive and allow subconscious habit patterns to guide you. Acting positively means validating yourself as a winner and loving yourself. Self-love is the starting point of all successful human endeavors. If you decide to act positively, this behavior leads you to a state of self-love.
2. Have a negative attitude. If you decide not to act and don’t feel worthy of being a winner, unworthiness will pull you into the triangle to fall right into the power of unworthiness and guilt. Then you will reverse into anxiety, and from anxiety to paralysis and so on. Notice that the arrows at the bottom of the triangle go in the opposite direction from the ones on the outside. Failing, by not acting positively in your life, causes you to regress along the path of “victim” inside the triangle. The process of your growth and development depends on your having the courage to act positively. When you don’t act positively you become a victim.

The victims are people who have been attacked by the situations of the world around them. They are people who do not risk and who are constantly going backward. The winners are the ones who control their actions and reactions, and respond positively to any event that occurs in their lives, obtaining results that are not always as expected, but having taken risks gives them security and increases their self-esteem because they dare to take decisions and make commitments.

On the path of triumph, give yourself the value you deserve; love yourself for being a winner ( love for oneself) and you will automatically go to the place of rest. Once again, as on the previous two occasions, you have a decision to make. The options are the same, you can choose positive action or allow self-doubt and mistrust to influence your mind and fall back into the triangle. Let’s understand how d rest, a recovery time. Recover by playing and relaxing. If you are a creator you will know when to get back into action. If you continue to give yourself courage, the time will come when you will reach a place where the new level of self-confidence loses its enthusiasm; it becomes a? Your acceptance of yourself as a champion has reached the limits of your belief system. The subconscious mind, based on its stored information (memories), will make you decide to go through self-examination, which will lead you to self-doubt, and from there you will return to fear again. However, fear is at a new and excellent level. It will be time to risks again, to move to a higher plane of awareness and confidence in yourself. If, on the other hand, you are not willing to examine yourself honestly, you are taken out of rest and sent inside, towards evasion, from where you begin to regress towards boredom, unworthiness, guilt, anxiety, and paralysis.

If you have a victim complex (most of us do to some degree), you will feel that the experiences of your life, whether they are pleasant or unpleasant; are the responsibility of other people or the same circumstance of life. The victims do not value the effort they could have had. If a friend sends you a gift or you break your leg, your mental reaction will be: They did it to me, or: I don’t deserve it.

When you play your own game, you own your own life and make your own decisions; the place of rest (recovery), will be a place where you can relax and look back to examine the last events of the triangle, fear, risk, triumph, love for oneself. You will be able to see how you have grown because some things that seemed scary are not anymore. Restit means that you have recovered and reset on this new higher plane, realizing the new level of confidence you have achieved for yourself and others. Your life can constantly develop if you face your fears or it can continuously diminish if you resist accepting responsibility for your life and your happiness; in which case your life will fall into the spiral triangle from anxiety through paralysis to avoidance, then boredom and worthlessness through guilt, and back to anxiety. The interior points of anxiety, avoidance, and unworthiness are the inverted counterparts of fear, rest, and triumph.

At first glance, this triangle, full of arrows and words, looks like a complicated geometry word problem. It is simply a graph that shows you either the path you can follow as you ascend or the rut you may fall into as you descend. The feeling of feeling good and the feeling of self-confidence will win out in the end; They will show up by making your own decisions and watching how they work for you. The difference between making decisions or allowing decisions to just happen is often a feeling of commitment. Using the triangle, you will face some challenges that you have faced in your life. Label the following spiral, either up on the outside or down on the inside, so that you can begin to recognize how this simple diagram can pinpoint,

learn to focus

What your mind is capable of conceiving and believing;

 is also capable of doing so. make it real!

Juan Antonio Razo

An anecdote is told about the time when the King’s Palace was being built, the architect spent a day reviewing the jobs that hundreds of workers were doing. He observed the different moods that seemed to manifest one and the other according to the different foremen and supervisors.

During his tour, three individuals who were carrying out the same task particularly caught his attention; the first did it with visible reluctance and annoyance, the second seriously and slowly; the third instead, with enthusiasm and diligence. The architect asked the first: What is he doing? And he answered: They put me to carve a stone. Then he asked the second: What are you doing? I prepare a stone for the entrance column on the right. He answered. Finally, he asked the same thing to the third and he answered: We are building the most beautiful palace in the country.

Analyze this short story and reflect on how many times you have done something similar in your life. Whatever you focus on tends to increase. If you focus on your weaknesses, they will grow in proportion to the energy you put into that thought. That is why you should focus on your qualities (real and imaginary) because in this way you will get them to grow and bear fruit in you. Where your attention is, is your intention.

Avoid victim attitudes

For a happy soul, the world is full of interesting things.

Alexandra Stoddard

Blaming someone, whoever it is, often leads to a complete breakdown of family communications. Yelling and saying offensive things to each other can turn into physical violence at any time. Violence in the family is a serious health crisis in this country.

Sometimes we blame ourselves and feel responsible. Or we also blame others to mitigate our guilt. Blaming quickly becomes a dangerous and endless cycle that can lead to violent acts and crime. There is a very big difference between good and listenable reasons and reasons that sound good. When our dreams die and depression takes over us, it’s time to stop looking for the guilty and start looking for the reasons that sound good and that got us into this mess, and then create a plan that will get us out of it.

Recognize your qualities and those of others

The higher we stand,

 more humble we must be.

Cicero

In recent times I have been surprised by the reasons that company workers state about the importance of doing a good job, and these are: Firstly, that they value their work, secondly, that they respect it, and of course: money.

This may surprise some people; however, most of us know that today, people no longer have to take on just any job, let alone feel grateful for it. Money is not the main reason we work, what we seek is appreciation and respect.

Jesus constantly gave recognition to his collaborators and said to them: Well done. Many of their stories tell of the praise that masters paid to loyal workers. God opened the heavens and praised Jesus in public in the river and said: You are my beloved son, I am pleased with you, and on another occasion, on the mountain, he said: He is my chosen one, listen to him. (God knows the importance of public recognition in motivating people and keeping good stuff).

The recognition of our work and the performance of our life is for us an incentive that nourishes and gives energy; Acknowledging and acknowledging ourselves leads us to think and feel that the performance we are doing is correct and that we are on the right track. This detail makes us fill with enthusiasm and continue our journey through the sea of ​​life.

We need recognition, we need to feed ourselves and receive positive feedback from the people around us. If you want to see someone grow a few inches before your eyes, acknowledge them in public.

choose to be excellent

The path to excellence has no speed limits.

David johnson

Of the attributes of man referred to in Ethics which are freedom, will, and intelligence, freedom is considered the center of human life; using it properly is equivalent to perfecting the quality of the planet. Freedom must be understood as the ability to choose and this consideration leads us to affirm the condition of freedom that man has. If this ability to choose is directed towards excellence, you must clearly understand the conditions that govern it.

An excellent human being influences others and transforms always looking for the good for himself and for those around him, that is; when making decisions he makes them ecologically. Excellence is knowing how to love and knowing how to be loved and always seeing the qualities of people, constantly seeking their good. Excellence is knowing how to gladly serve and support others, as it is known that among all of us, you can always find a better way of doing things.

Excellence is the privilege of human beings who are in constant development, according to divine precepts. Excellence is knowing how to communicate peace to others, taking advantage of opportunities, and facing difficulties, but not doing for others what they can do for themselves. Excellence is knowing how to protect without suffocating, knowing how to guide without imposing, knowing how to motivate those in our charge so that they fall in love with the truth and be wise, fall in love with the beauty and be artists, fall in love with God and be holy, fall in love with your homeland or a dream and be heroes. Excellence is knowing how to live the virtues and infecting one’s own lifestyle with that happiness that is communicated by prudence, justice, strength, temperance, and enthusiasm.

Excellence is treating people with greater delicacy and finesse, so mine will see that the rank and dignity of all people are very high. Excellence is knowing how to say yes to life because I walk confidently from the hand of God. Excellence, then is knowing that to help train great men and women, you have to start with yourself; men and women who are capable of building better societies, more just systems, and above all, who give glory to God.

The man who lives with excellence possesses, among other things, the following characteristics:

• intuitive and joyful
• You are clear about your purpose
• It is original
• It’s responsible
• proves free
• build others
• withstand rejection
• hold the frustration
• gives meaning to life
• He is balanced in his passion
• promote values

The excellent man knows how to laugh and laugh abundantly and often. He joyfully basks in the abundance of values ​​that he embodies and promotes. He enjoys the beautiful things that abound on this earth. Being intuitive, he knows how to relate great realities and has a broad and advanced vision of the future; in equal measure, he is inventive and creative. Above all, he promotes the rise of great men, of new values, of historical changes… (González, 1999).

He who does not have excellence lives in mediocrity. Why don’t you have it? You once had it but something happened in your life. Interpret your belief system and you will discover the gear that somehow keeps you from excellence, and redefines your life.

Jump out of your comfort box

Resisting change is so useless

like opposing the rising of the sun.

Juan Antonio Razo

In the book I Love You, I Hate You, de Vallés analyzes the risk of confrontation and says that if there are no challenges in life, we fall into mediocrity. The great temptation of the least effort. Let it be. Do not move. Do what everyone does. Don’t get in trouble. This is how many people live, out of social necessity or their own free will, and those who want it that way have the full right to do so without being bothered by anyone. But a price is always paid for conformism and laziness, and it is to lower the existential level of life. The more I withdraw into myself, the less of a person I am. For the personality to flourish, it needs open air, rain, and wind; he needs direct encounters with other people to realize his being. No one grew up alone.

When you were a child, you did not perceive the problems or you simply did not have them. But what is common in childhood is that every child takes risks and parents are in charge of constantly setting limits, and end up locking them in a pen that limits their natural development, both physical and mental. What size is your pen? The house where you live, your work, your family. That’s your corral. I’m going to show you. Every morning you get out of bed as a ritual, go into the bathroom, and often do the same. For most of your activities, you do them a certain way for comfort. Analyze your achievements, they happened because you did something different. You have your problems. You are not willing to pay a price because perhaps you are afraid of losing comfort.

If you keep doing it like you do today, you will never have what you are looking for, by looking for comfort you are missing the opportunity to enter into the process of being, doing, and having.

This that limits you was perhaps acquired from childhood. A child is like a blank page. Who was told that children don’t cry? Which of the women considers that men are superior? A person without beliefs is a person without inhibitions, he gives one hundred percent. Your belief is your point of view. Those beliefs are what has limited you. They are blocks that have remained in your mind and limit you. What limits you keeps you within your comfort box and you get ordinary results. You have to break those beliefs. The higher the belief, the more the price is paid. What is the price you are willing to pay? Those who paid a price are already enjoying success because they have become extraordinary people.

What price are you willing to pay?

Everybody wants success

But no one wants to pay the price.

youthful

Do you want success? If your answer is yes, then you should know that everything in life has a price. If valuable things were easy to obtain, anyone would have them. To break the beliefs that limit your development and that prevent you from being able to manifest your magnificence, you need to pay the price that human beings pay who do not remain immobile within their little comfort box.

A study carried out in Germany by the Alexander Hamilton Institute through more than 500,000 students, including more than 150,000 executives, concluded that the success or failure of a person does not depend on their ability or their intelligence, but simply and simply that some people want to pay the price for their success and others do not.

This price is: Make use of your maximum energy, to force yourself to reach the place you want to achieve in your life. Have the determination to follow the plan you designed, not only if the circumstances are favorable, but despite all the obstacles that come your way. Finally, do not admit any event that can twist, change or modify the realization of the purpose you have for your life.

Paying this price is not easy. That’s why some want to do it and others don’t. However, every human being is in complete freedom to decide whether or not he wants to pay the price for his success in life. People who succeed in life have to pay the necessary prices to achieve their goals, sacrificing rest and even the time they dedicate to family. If you are aware of this, even if the time you spend with your family is little, you will ensure that it is of great quality.

The achievement of your objectives requires the greatest effort, overcoming personal, family, and social problems; always keep in mind that you should fill yourself with optimism and put aside the excuses that only fit people who have no responsibility.

Risk what if yes? 

Believe you have it and you will have it.

Erasmus

Since when did you stop risking? Remember that when you were a child you often took risks, you always bet on things. Perhaps you were saying: And what if yes?

When I was in Mexico last time, I went for a walk through a very elegant residential area, and at the door of a mansion, I noticed a red convertible car. Near him was his owner with the keys in hand ready to take him away. I told my friend who was accompanying me:  Let me, I’m going to go get him. I’m going to ask him. What do you think my friend told me? You are stupid, how is that man going to give you such a car?   Of course, I didn’t listen to my friend and I went over to talk to the owner of the car and I said: Hey sir; I like his car… can he give it to me?  What do you think he answered me? You are very silly, work lazy! Was there a possibility that he gave it to me? Yeah! Yes, there was! What did you have insurance? Tell me no. I took a risk, I asked for it. Imagine what if this gentleman was evicted and my audacity had fallen in favor, perhaps he would have given me his car.

Since when did you stop risking? Who told you that you were worthless? Who made fun of you? I affirm that great beliefs are formed in children, but even so, you continue to reap beliefs… What did they tell you as a child when you did something wrong? What do they tell you when you leave the key stuck in the car and lock it? Donkey, stupid, stupid… When you did your homework well, what did they tell you? Nothing.

You do whatever it takes to boycott your success. How can I be a fool to have this? I do not deserve it! How can I deserve this if I’m stupid?

Do you think that people with such beliefs deserve to have love and happiness? Do you think a fool deserves it? I tell you, yes, but the price you have to pay is very high, for your inner being to manifest.

When at school or in a meeting they ask you to come forward, you may think… No way. How many times has this happened to you? You let someone else decide for you because you don’t want to have problems. Remember that the solution is not within the comfort box.

Let’s assume that you mistakenly get on the wrong truck. How do you act? Are you one of those who stay quiet because they don’t take risks? How many contracts have you signed in your life without reading them because you feel sorry for them? At school, do you give one hundred percent? At your job, do you complain because there is work? How many times have things happened to you for not asking? To look at new horizons you have to take risks. There will always be possibilities for success in each of your decisions. If you take a risk and the results were not what you wanted, you were still successful, because how else would you know if you could get something out of your decision? Taking risks gives you an opportunity for growth. People who do not risk are simply living in a vegetable state,

commit

If you fail, recognize your mistakes and recommit yourself

What you plan to do or dream of doing, do it now.

Goethe

Committed people can be entrusted with a mission. Commitment opens the doors to life’s opportunities and builds a man of his word. The man who fulfills his commitments, however simple they may be; is a gentleman in the truest sense of the word.

What we call errors are just opportunities, useful information from God that tells us that we are not in harmony with Him. Let’s learn to walk through the procedure of falling and getting up after the fall. Although sometimes it may not seem like it, we are always moving towards our final goal, harmony with everything and everyone. That is why we live in constant transformation. Change is the only constant in our lives. Even if you wanted to, you will never be able to get wet twice in the same river: When you are going to set foot for the second time, the water molecules that come into contact with your feet are no longer the same as the first time. Existence is made of changes.

The word is great. Having a word is a commitment to yourself and others. Every day you have the opportunity to create value, how? Every time you commit. The word is great. It is an act of honesty. In the days of my grandparents there was word, the commitments they made had value. What happened? Why have they lost their value?

What do you see of a person who has no word? Immature, unreliable, hypocritical, defeated, etc., and what does a person who has no word generate in you? Mistrust, anger, disappointment, etc.; Now, if a person commits to you and fulfills you, what do you see in her? Trust, security, respect, and what generates you? Courage, honesty, sincerity.

Now I ask you, can you fail the word? Of course. Because if you have a priority, you will have to prioritize your commitments and you will not be able to comply. Although later you must negotiate, because by not fulfilling you I lose power in you; the power of my word. The moment I am with you again, I will have the prudence to recognize that I did not have my word and I will recommit myself to her.

Every day you have the opportunity to acquire value. A responsible person means having the quality of keeping his word. You have to be consistent. Do you want to feel bad? Up to you. You are part of a whole and everything is part of you. Having a word means responsibility.

always give up reason

The key to success depends only on what we can do in the best possible way.

1. Longfellow

To explain this concept it is necessary to analyze a little what is the truth: There is nothing that is not; if you can see, perceive or feel something, then it is. If it is, in whatever way it is, then it exists. The truth is what it is. All things are true, there is nothing that is not true.

Truth is a metaphor. Indeed, when we talk about our beliefs, we use metaphors to describe them. This also applies to scientific truths. With it, scientists express their maps of reality (González, 1999).

We have incorrectly used the word true to mean inaccurate. A thing can be inaccurate and it can still be true. For example, 2+2 cannot add up to five, but the inaccuracy is not a falsehood. If a child writes 2+2=5 on his homework there is no way around it.

Suppose a boy is inside a bedroom and his mother is outside. The boy claims that the door is painted white. The mother claims that the door is painted black. What if they realized that there is nothing that is not, that all things are true, including their point of view and the opponent’s point of view? Then both of you could double your understanding of the truth.

A few days ago, at a meal at my in-laws’ house, a discussion broke out between my two brothers-in-law about the opinion that each of them had regarding the conduct of a politician. The first insisted that the politician had no sensitivity and that his decisions were arbitrary. The other said that he was a person to trust and that he was making accurate decisions in his career. Both were analyzing the situation according to the experience they had with the politician. To understand more and learn more about the politician, they will need to be willing to accept the opponent’s point of view.

This makes me think of the story of five sages who were led blindfolded to touch an elephant. Each of them was allowed to touch it and feel it with their hand. They were then taken into a room and blindfolded, where each of them described his experience with the elephant; one said that it looked very much like a tree because he had touched the huge leg of the animal; another said that it resembled a cliff since he had touched one of the sides; still, another said that he had played a solid string, because he had played the tail, and so on. Everyone’s point of view was different about what the elephant was. However, none of them, nor all together can encompass what an elephant is.

My point of view and your point of view may seem provable and yet, they may be opposite. Because our points of view differ we can fall into an argument. One point to remember is that argument always take place intending to disqualify the other person’s point of view to protect your own. If you do not defend your opinion, it is generally because you do not need to defend yourself, since you are convinced that your point of view is correct. Your sole purpose in arguing is to convince me that I am wrong. If we could learn to see opposing points of view as balancers and members of the full picture of truth, we would be happy to hear our opponent’s point of view.

Facts are easily proven and easily defended, while the truth cannot be proven, because there is no objective benchmark by which to measure it. (all things including parameters are part of the truth). It is easy to prove that the air around us contains certain basic elements such as hydrogen and oxygen, since this is a fact. It is quite another thing to prove that this very air is of variable shades of blue, which sometimes change into all the colors of the rainbow; this is the truth.

Due to the above, it is reasonable to think that in a discussion, whatever it may be, the two people who are interacting are right, since within their narrow mental capacity they are conceiving the phenomenon in question. The appropriate thing to do in these circumstances is to give in to reason, knowing in advance that the antithesis complements the truth that you are looking for.

Mullá Naserudín fed the donkey every day, but one day he got lazy and told his wife: Go feed the donkey. The woman did not sit well with the order, and they began to argue about who should do it. They did not agree, and finally, Naserudin said: Let’s make a bet; We are both going to be silent and the first one to speak feeds the donkey. The woman nodded, and they both closed their mouths willing not to open it at all.

Naserudín sat in a corner of the room, closed in his absolute silence. His wife soon got bored and he went to the neighbor’s house, where she stayed until nightfall. She told the neighbors what had happened, and added: He is so stubborn that he would rather starve than give in to me. We are going to send him hot soup because he will be hungry by now. They gave a pot of boiling soup to the boy of the house to take to Naserudin.

Meanwhile, a thief had broken into Naserudin’s house and started carrying everything he found. When he saw Naserudin sitting in a corner without moving, he believed that he was paralyzed, and he even took the cap that the Mullah was wearing, but he did not move or say a word.

He was in the same position and position when the boy arrived with the soup. The boy said: I bring you this soup from your neighbor’s house From him. The Mullá tried to make him understand by signs what had happened, how a thief had come and taken everything that was in the house, including his own hat. To express the loss of the cap, he pointed to his own head by turning his finger several times.

The boy understood that he wanted him to pour the soup over his head, and he did so without paying attention to the temperature of the liquid. Naserudin received the thick burning rain on his head, but he did not move or say a word. His face and his beard had been left in a lamentable state, and the boy, seeing him, ran back home to tell everything he had seen and understood, the theft, the soup bath and the silence of the Mullá.

Upon hearing the report, his wife realized everything that had happened and went home immediately. There she found her husband in the same place where she had left him, without moving; and crying and laughing at the same time, she told him all excited: Can we know that she means all this? The Mullah replied: Go feed the donkey. And don’t be so stubborn again.

Moral: The donkey does not go without eating.

Always play to win/win (Attitude)

The doors of wisdom are never shut

1. Franklin

The roles we play in life are four:

1. lose/ lose In this type of game you will find Human beings who live in pessimism. His most common expressions are: Everything is going wrong for me. Nobody loves me. They all hurt me. And when they have conflicts with each other, they take the best option to break the relationship. They are rarely faced with solving their own problems. They are people who wait for time to heal their wounds. They are losers.
2. lose/ win This role is played by the victims. These types of people blame their problems on those around them, and they also live in the past. His most frequent complaints are: Because of my father I couldn’t study and I’m unfortunate. My mom despises me because of my color. When they have conflicts, they not only wait, but they create the conditions for things to be worse for them and they are right for what they affirmed about their misfortune. For the victims, everyone is fine except them.
3. win/ lose This type of role is frequent in aggressive people, who take advantage of their condition and take advantage of any relationship. For these men and women, everyone is wrong except them. Their expressions are: I don’t trust anyone. My colleagues are failures. They are all wrong. In conflict resolution, they are very aggressive and do not tempt their hearts to dominate and take advantage of their peers.
4. Win-win. This game of life is called the “ecological game”. Because it’s a game that’s good for me and acceptable to the people who interact with me. The most frequent expressions are of equity and justice: Let’s make it! Don’t be discouraged, in this project, we are both going to be winners. When they have conflicts, these types of people “surrender to who they are and take action.” One of the most important characteristics is that they live in the present and accept it as it is. They are responsible people, who pledge their word and keep it.

Knowing the four roles that you have played in the course of your life and that you will continue to play, allows you to choose the attitude that you want to have in your interrelationships. Playing win/win is an option that will more easily lead you to the peak of your personal development.

Increase your self-esteem

Our performance will never be greater than

 the image we have of ourselves.

Dr. Lair Ribeiro

The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of one’s attitude toward life. The attitude, for me, is more important than the facts. More important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think or do. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it. And so it is with you, we are in charge of our attitudes.

Considerations on self-esteem:

• The attitude I have towards myself determines my self-esteem.
• My self-worth depends on the self-image I have of myself.
• Others do not determine my worth, nor do circumstances.
• I can think, face any challenge and achieve what I set my mind to, just like any other human being.
• I have the right to seek, obtain and enjoy happiness.
• God created me in his image and likeness and only for that I am worth.
• If the image I have of myself is not what I like, then my self-esteem will be low. To the extent that the image is to my liking, my self-esteem will be better. The good news is found in the fact that I can, whenever I decide to, change the image I have of myself for the image I want of myself, an image just as I want to be.

Changing the image involves several steps:

• Create in my mind the image I want of myself.
• Fix from now on my attention on the created image.
• Do not allow anything or anyone to make me change the new image.
• Act and have an attitude according to my new image.
• The new image feeds my self-esteem, and as it improves, my high self-esteem also improves my self-image, becoming a virtuous circle.

Our performance will never be greater than the image we have of ourselves.

accept yourself

Love is the miraculous cure.

Louise L. Hay

It is a concept that all philosophical religions collect. We are in life what we refuse to be. When you affirm, for example, I don’t want to be like Pedro, you are taking the first step to being equal to him, and everyone, except you, will realize that it is so. If you can’t, you’ll be forced, that’s why you’ll become what you don’t want to be. And if you can, the will will replace the obligation. That’s why what you accept may or may not become reality. It depends on what you want. The true change in you will only come when you accept others as they are and you accept yourself as you are.

My point of view is that the acceptance or rejection of an individual in our society generally does not depend on whether or not they are valuable to the whole society. They often depend on whether they are adept at playing our social games. Consequently, many solid, valuable, and beautiful people are being rejected and because of this, they are destroying themselves at this time. This destruction may very well be a form of suicide, either literal and immediate to a prolonged system of self-punishment whereby a person nullifies their qualities, denies their natural charisma and talent, and ultimately loses self-confidence, becoming a shadow in the corner Some of our greatest geniuses are very sensitive people, and these same sensitive people are the most easily crushed by the brutality of our social games.

Acceptance does not mean tolerance, nor does it mean being able to get by. It means surrendering and becoming one with the other person, allowing him to be who he is, and doing what he is doing. Each person is a creator in a completely different way from those around them and brings their own intricate and perfect pattern to our universe. Without his pattern, our universe is incomplete. If we don’t allow him to be himself without exercising our hostile judgment, we’ll never have a chance to feel his natural magnificence. Our rejection will cause him to withdraw and be defensive, hiding the true and vulnerable self from him, because of our cruelty. However, when he knows that he is accepted unconditionally, he relaxes into his own uniqueness and begins to make decisive moves in his life.

There are no intermediate points between rejection and acceptance. Each person is either expanding a part of themselves in confidence and authority or destroying themselves as a result of our acceptance or rejection of them at this time.

Acceptance is a tool that can be used effectively. To win this race, start by taking your foot off the accelerator, breathing, and looking around you and inside yourself recognizing and accepting yourself as you are. If you want to be accepted by others, start by accepting others totally and completely.

When we truly love, accept, and approve of ourselves exactly as we are, then everything works out in life. It’s like little miracles happen everywhere. Everything improves around us. Loving and approving yourself, creating a safe space, trusting, deserving, and accepting, all this will create an organization in your mind, and create more loving relationships in your life. People who love themselves and their bodies do not abuse themselves or others. Self-approval and self-acceptance at this time are the main keys to positive changes in all areas of our lives.

Loving yourself starts with not criticizing ourselves anymore. Criticism locks us in the same pattern that we are trying to change. Being understanding and kind to ourselves helps us achieve change. Remember that you have been criticizing yourself for many years and it has not worked. Treat yourself with approval and watch your results.

Respect yourself and respect others

We can only respect others

when we respect ourselves.

We can only give when we give ourselves.

We can only love when we love ourselves.

Abraham Maslow

Every human being you see around you has a secret. This secret, which he rarely admits even to himself, is that he is an incarnation of God. He knows that the creative inspiration of the world emanates from him. Hidden deep in his soul is a fierce and beautiful pride in being himself. One surefire way to reach the heart of any person is to show him that you are actively aware of his hidden magnificence. Being actively aware means actively showing respect for it.

Whatever you do to others, you also do for yourself. You can’t respect another person unless you first consider yourself respected and respectable. If you want to be respected, start by respecting others as consciously as possible.

One way to show the utmost respect for another person is by listening to their desires, and their words, and sometimes going beyond words and listening to the song in their soul.

Give affection and receive it

You cannot love something by decree.

Love is a voluntary expression of the heart.

Juan Antonio Razo

This was an experiment by René Spitz with orphaned children as a result of the Second World War, sheltered in hospitals in England, and cared for by an order of nuns from the last century. The house had an infant mortality rate that exceeded 90%. The sisters had sadly resigned themselves to such a situation, believing that the cause was the fact that the children had been found in doorjambs and the streets and had been exposed to countless diseases and privations before their death. arrival, which was the cause of their illness and premature deaths.

Continuing with the story, a woman who had raised her own family came to work at the orphanage. Her duties were limited to mopping and washing, but her maternal instincts were constantly aroused by crying babies. As she began to comfort them they told her that the infants would probably die anyway and that with the amount of work she had to do, there was no time to care for them other than to feed them.

However, he got permission and while doing his chores he spent some time holding and calming the little ones. To the astonishment of everyone except the cleaning woman, the children began to thrive. They gained weight and began to babble and play. The degree of mortality dropped from 90% to 10% almost overnight.

We are no different from those children. We must share affection with those of our universe or we will die. Death, as a result of a lack of affection, will not come as quickly or mercifully on adults as it does on children. However, it is just as predictable.

We pass this life force to one another through displays of affection. It is vitally important for health that you show affection and that you receive it. True affection is not necessarily the exchange of hugs and kisses. These acts can very well be exchanged without any affection involved.

Some people find sharing their affection with other human beings so difficult that they turn their affection toward animals. These people fill their needs for affection by giving it to the beloved objects of their lives, their pets. In doing so, they exchange the same life energy that nourishes human beings, it could not come from any other creature that was different or part of the same vibrant pattern as human beings. Just as our children are raised on the milk of other non-human creatures, our spirits can be nourished by their affection. We are the same family.

It is only possible to give to other people what we have for ourselves. A poor man cannot give or lend you money. A man who does not have a garden cannot give you fruit, therefore; To give affection we need to have it.

For many of us, experience with other beings has taught us how easily we can be hurt. Sometimes it seems safer to pretend affection and play affection games than to open our hearts and truly give ourselves. Affection games, however, cannot nourish the deep and vital part of us, which must exchange loving energy with other beings to move forward. Trust is required on your side so that you can exchange sincere affection with another person.

To have more affection in your life, start giving more affection to those around you today. The act of giving is closely related to the act of receiving. By handing out these gifts, you will automatically receive the gift rewards. The act of gift-giving requires two people to surrender to each other. At that moment the giver and the receiver become one.

A lady who was in the habit of giving alms to a poor person at the door of the church she frequented, put her hand to her bag one day, and only then realized that she had forgotten. Her beggar kept his hand outstretched toward her, and then she reacted tactfully and quickly. She told him “Today I have nothing to give you, but at least I can shake her hand. And she did it like that, with sincere naturalness and feeling. The beggar was not allowed to win in courtesy, she accepted her handshake and said: Today you have given me more than all the other days.

clear up with your friends

True friendship is a slow-growing plant,

and it must resist adversity before having the right to that denomination.

George Washington

Mullá Naserudín saw a group of policemen in the town square, and he immediately ran at full speed to escape. The policemen chased him street after street and field after field throughout the town and the surrounding area. At last, he stopped suddenly, turned around, and faced his pursuers. The policemen almost fell on him with the speed they were carrying; at last, they stopped and surrounded him. When everyone had recovered their breath, the Mullah asked: Why were you persecuting me? They answered: Because you were escaping from us. Well, replied the Mullah, but now I am not escaping from you. To which the police chief replied: We are not after you now either. And so the confrontation ended. This is the story of many misunderstandings between friends.

Creating the habit of reading

books are bees

that carry pollen from one intelligence to another.

Lowell

Some people have worried about not having a career, and they think that they will not be able to be someone important in life because of this lack, but I am going to tell you the opposite: it is not a necessary and sufficient condition to pursue a degree to succeed in life, it is enough that you have the adequate instruction to function in society. The best way to have such instruction within any area of ​​knowledge is by reading. Reading gives you up-to-date information on what is happening in the world, currents of thought, new technologies, etc. Reading has a double purpose; on the one hand, it instructs you and on the other, reading seems to me to be a very good way to relax. Entering into the mind and experience of another human being who may have ceased to exist many years ago is an unforgettable experience.

The man who has not had the habit of reading is a prisoner in his immediate world in terms of time and space. His life falls into a set routine; he limits himself to contact and conversation with a few friends and acquaintances and does not see more of what is happening around him. There is no possible escape from this prison. The moment you pick up a book you enter a different world, and if it’s a good book, you immediately come into contact with one of the best storytellers in the world. This narrator guides you and takes you to a different nation or a different time, and he tells you about situations that you would never have imagined or invites you to discuss some special topic or aspect of life that you know nothing about.

To live a couple of hours in a world and take our thoughts away from the demands of the immediate present, is a privilege to be envied by those who are imprisoned in corporal prisons.

Reading is a habit, and as such it is necessary to form it. Some people might say that they don’t find satisfaction in reading; they get tired from the moment they see the extension of a text or a book. Others will affirm that this or that subject does not interest them. Perhaps some will say: “I start with enthusiasm, but after ten or twelve lines I get tired and stop.” I reply to all of them that reading is a habit that arises from a simple act of choice. A bad habit can be replaced by a good habit. Why don’t you just get in the habit of allowing yourself a brief five-minute window a day to read?

If you are not in the habit of reading, my best recommendation is that you commit to working on it. There is an extensive source of publications such as books, manuals, technical literature, newspapers, and magazines, to expand your own knowledge and cultural heritage. Reading is absolute power. When you open a book, you open a world full of knowledge, fun, and excitement. Join these scientists, poets, and heroes on an exciting journey to visit other wonderful and mysterious worlds, encompassed within the written word.

Have you ever been interested in a book or publication? What called your attention? Title? The illustrations? The topic? The cover? Everything seems to coincide with the subjectivity with which you were formed. You have asked yourself questions, and you have analyzed everything that surrounds you. And there begins a kind of supply and demand between what you need or want to know and what they want to let you know. You should choose, because you need to have a correct experience of things. In a way, you need to believe in something. Believing not only in a spiritual sense but in accepting (or not) concepts, facts, and realities of other men. This is the moment, then, to pick up a book, to familiarize yourself with what is written. Everything that comes to your hand read it, analyze it, study it. Then extract the good. “Of course, (you will tell me) to find what is fair, what is adequate, what is positive, what is precise is not always easy, it can even be subjective”. But he replied that you will not be able to differentiate the good from the bad of this or that author if you don’t read his thoughts first. After reading will come analysis and criticism.

The habit of reading will deepen in you until you reach extraordinary moments. If a friend or classmate asked you: When to read? answer him: read when you need to know and believe. Make time for it. Where to read? Where you feel comfortable. How to read? With the desire and willingness to learn. Why read? To know the world and its ideas. What to read? Everything you can and that is beneficial to you.

Remember that reading sets you free, gives you security, and provides you with armor to fight against adversity.

Economic development strategies

If not me who; if not today when?

Time is precious, but the truth

 it is more precious than time.

Disraeli

I have already mentioned in section 1.1 that the human means: freedom, will and intelligence are integrating elements to carve out our true identity. I have dedicated time to be clear about which of these three aspects is the most important and I concluded that I should not waste time in this search, because the use of any of the attributes independently would lack strength and would not help me at all. make decisions in my development. Life is so limited, that in the transcendental part of it, nothing more than you, have the freedom to decide when to do or stop doing things, in this decision you must use your intelligence. freedom _God gave it to you and you must use it responsibly and this will give you the strength to make decisions. Here it is required that you properly manage your will, because, without it, the arbitration will become tedious and sometimes impossible. Remember: You and no one else but you, are responsible for your life, today.

Many years ago, she came to the city where Ana María Rabatte lives and gave a talk (that’s what she liked to call her lectures). When declaiming a poem of her own inspiration that is titled “In life brother, in life”; I allowed myself a moment of reflection and decided to take advantage of the opportunity that God gives us to be in this world and my approach to life began to change. Here is the poem:

if you want to make happy

to the one you love the most,

tell him today, don’t wait for tomorrow,

in life brother, in life…

If you want to give a flower

Don’t send her to the grave

today with love you must give it,

in life brother, in life

If you want to show your love

who shares your house,

to the friend, near or far,

in life brother, in life…

don’t expect them to die

your friends to love them,

and make them feel affection,

in life brother, in life.

You’ll be very happy

if you teach to be happy,

everyone you meet

in life brother, in life…

Do not visit Pantheons

Don’t fill graves with flowers

hearts full of love,

in life brother, in life.

 Use your time properly

Empty your money in your mind

And then your mind will fill your pockets.

Benjamin Franklin

Someone said: You can lose your wealth and also your health, but with dedication and work you can recover, however: Who knows someone who has recovered a lost hour? Time is an equally unlimited resource for everyone: 24 hours a day or 60 minutes an hour; neither one more nor one less. Time seems to pass slowly for some people, for others quickly. It is the resource that some take advantage of, while others waste with impunity. For a one-year-old child; that year is his whole life. For a 17-year-old, a year is 1/17 of her life. For a 40-year-old man, a year is 1/40 part of his life. For an 85-year-old senior, one year is 1/85 of their life. This idea leads us to feel that a year is relatively smaller for an adult than for a child, due to the proportion it means in his life. Remember when you were in elementary school and you waited for your new birthday; spent a lot of time (relatively); Now remember how fast time flies.

Is the time itself different for each person?  No.  The difference is in the idea and behavior that each one of us has and applies to that resource. Those who take advantage of it are those who have understood it as a limited resource, by modifying their way of thinking and acting, being more efficient and effective in the same interval of time; a different way of being for those who live “doing time”. In this group, there are also men of great talent and surprising intelligence, who, although they have other capacities and abilities, do not know how to use their time, that limited resource. A wise man spoke of a man who asked God to lighten the most important events in his life, God gives him a spool of thread with a limited number of knots and says: This is your life, and each of the most important events, are the knots. The man, as he wanted to live fully, finished enjoying an important event in his life and pulled the reel so that the next event would come soon. His life ended in a heartbeat.

Take money matters maturely

The greater the power, the greater the prudence.

Anonymous

Let’s be honest. Most people get entangled when they handle money matters due to a lack of responsibility towards it. The problem is that they spend more than they earn. The solution to the conflict is not easy. When you’re immersed in a sea of ​​debt, it seems impossible to swim back to the surface. When the situation becomes so complicated; fear, guilt, and resentments of insecurity tend to make it difficult for us to think and act. We blame everyone but ourselves for our financial problems and this leads us to be in a dangerous game.

Aristotle said: What we have to learn to do, we learn by doing. The best plan to pay off your debts and get your financial life in order will be the one you discover for yourself by doing it. You just have to take things easy, recognizing that only you and only you are responsible for what happens.

Commit yourself to take charge of the matter and decisively think about it and take risks to have answers that will help you get out of this quagmire. And perhaps what you may be going through now will serve as an experience for your future decisions and you will think twice about what to do with your money and what you still do not have.

Set financial limits

Always go as far as your eyes can see;

When you get there, you can always go further.

Zig Ziglar

The way things are in the credit card culture, most people don’t know if they have money or not. How is it possible? Usually, they do not have a clear idea of ​​the balance of their bank account, not to mention what they owe. Second, they never make a personal or family budget and, if they do, they don’t stick to living within the limits considered.

So without a budget, even if they have the money in hand, they won’t remember that most of that money is already going to pay off their credit card and debts, or for their livelihood, or think favorably: to increase their income. savings. So they continue spending like drunks on the riot and wondering in the morning why their heads hurt so much. Well, it is the hangover of remorse for having spent irresponsibly, and the saddest thing is that they cannot even enjoy what they have bought.

If you don’t have a budget, why not spend a Friday night or Saturday morning playing a little budgeting game? The rules are simple. Set a financial limit and commit to living within it. Write down the expenses by priorities and the commitments to pay what you owe. Don’t forget to save at least ten percent of your income.

Sit with your family, if you are single you can do it alone; If you are married, you must do it with your spouse, without children. Talking about money does not necessarily have to be torture. It can be fun. Dare to do it!

Settle your debt

Be careful in promising something,

because you will have to comply.

Anonymous

The time has come to stop in your mad rush and settle your debts as soon as possible. Tighten your belt and resolve to fulfill the duty of cleaning up your finances:

• First, add up everything you owe.
• Second, you have to calculate the weekly or monthly amounts that you can pay.
• Third, be sure to notify your creditors and negotiate with them to see if the payments are adequate.
• Fourth, pay on time.
• And fifth, please live within your means so you don’t get into such trouble again.

I know this plan seems very simplistic. But it is, after all, a plan. And any plan is better than none.

Save a little every day

If you save ten percent of your income,

will have taken the first step

towards wealth and prosperity.

George S. Clason

What percentage of your income do you save monthly? How much money do you have in the bank to cover your emergencies? Remember the basic rule of saving. You need to have at least three months’ worth of income in your savings account to protect yourself from a disaster. Considering this average, are you up or down? Or you have absolutely nothing. I know it can be very difficult for you to save, especially when you are in debt and the need for cash seems to be increasing by the day, but in the long run, you will be surprised how much money you can save in the worst of times if you put ten percent in the bank. percent of your income each month, with constancy and fidelity.

share with others

Good manners are the happy way of doing things.

Ralph W Emerson

A good alternative to get out of debt is to tithe. God is always waiting. He says: You have not fed the poor, sheltered the widow and orphan, and cared for the oppressed. In the third chapter of Malachi, the old prophet hears God say: You are robbing me! When people asked God, how? God replied: In tithes and first fruits. When we talk about sharing, about compassion, we’re not just talking about donating a percentage of our profits. We are talking about an attitude of compassion that affects everything we do. In my experience, regardless of my religious background, I think that people who share generously are the ones who succeed. They are the ones who give affection and gratitude no matter who. Ultimately, when life is over, it’s how you’re remembered that makes all the difference, and we set those memories from the start.

The purpose of human life is to serve and show compassion and a desire to help others. The best portion of a good man’s life is his small, anonymous, forgotten acts of kindness and love. The important thing is to share just for the fun of it. Most of our little acts of sharing will go unremembered, but we keep doing them. The act of sharing honors our creator. It gives hope and help to those most in need and a sense of pleasure and feedback to us. Man must choose whether he is to be rich in things or free to use them. Any small act of sharing, especially when “we don’t have the wherewithal to do it with”, gives us freedom!

Social development strategies

Redefine your language

We all have an obligation

to say sensible and reasonable things

Goethe

Teachers, friends, relatives as well as parents have a long index finger pointing vigorously at you and telling you that you should be different. Whenever you come across the word should, guilt will immediately appear. Wherever you find guilt, you’ll find an equal amount of resentment from those involved with its creation.

When we respond to the Should we find where we are stuck in our beliefs and what are the limitations we think we have? Should, is one of the most harmful words in the language. Every time we use should, we are, in effect, saying: Wrong. Either we are wrong, or we were wrong, or we are going to be wrong. I don’t think we need more mistakes in our life, we need to have more freedom of choice. I’d like to take the word should and replace it from the dictionary with the word could. It could give us a choice and so we are never wrong.

Another word that brings a lot of confusion is I have to…, it feels like an obligation that frankly affects our actions. I suggest that you change your language with the word I want and I prefer to do…

Example: I have to work because I want and I prefer to work.

Everything I do, I do because I sincerely and personally want to do it, not because I have to. I indeed dislike many of these things, I consider them wrong, I do not approve of them and I even reject them.

However, when I change my language, I am accepting them, because, after all, they are part of my life like work and study.

change your beliefs

—No Juan, there is no such place. Heaven is not a place or a time.

 “Heaven consists of being perfect…

He was silent for a moment

“Joy Savior Seagull”   Richard Bach

Our dreams inspire us, our fears motivate us, and our belief systems either sabotage or support us. Our beliefs exert incredible power and our creative and destructive forces are guided by them. That is why it is so important to restructure our belief systems, to ensure that they validate and support our perfection.

All beliefs relate to the past. They derive from that combination of experiences and judgments that are stored in your subconscious mind or belief system. When you cling to old beliefs, you are ignoring the truth that emerges from evidence and new experiences. Every new experience you have is connected to your entire belief system. These beliefs change the tone, shape, and meaning of all new experiences so that they become consistent with the old ones. This is how our ability to perceive what it is limited by our previously established belief system, so in our quest to experience the truth, we must allow our belief system to be as flexible as possible.

Every day of your life, you are surrounded by new patterns of light and new opportunities to discover through your experiences. When you stubbornly resist everything but what you previously perceived to be the truth, you exclude all truth from your life except those that form the tiny rope by which you hold on. You create your reality according to the concepts that you believe to be true. When, for example, you think you are sick until your mind opens up enough to see that illness is only a small part of your whole experience and that being healthy is within your reach and you just have to take it.

Thoughts depend on the beliefs of the people who have them. If you don’t like what is manifesting in your life, analyze what you have thought and the beliefs behind your thoughts. Change your beliefs, renew them linguistically, and new manifestations will emerge in your life. You are in command of your ship. Take your hands out of your pockets, take the helm firmly and with determination, and set course for the seas you have chosen, those that you previously sailed in your mental ocean.

In this regard, the Bible also teaches us how to undertake a process of change:

As for the past way of living, put off the old man, which is corrupted according to deceitful desires, and renew yourselves in the spirit of your mind (Ephesians 4:22-23).

We know beforehand that a renewed behavior and a confrontation with the current challenges are not easy to achieve, but that it is an action that requires greater effort, dedication, and mainly faith…, a lot of faith.

Allow yourself to change your beliefs and life will reward you.

live in the present

-But it is true! I am a perfect seagull without limitations! And she shuddered with joy

“Joy Savior Seagull”   Richard Bach

The first step to putting our lives in order is to admit reality: It is as it is. Learn not to worry about what might happen next week or what happened the week before. The past as well as the future are fantasy. The future has not yet happened to you and the past is distorted because immediately after any incident occurs, your perception of it begins to be distorted by present realities and your ever-changing point of view. The past is never remembered exactly as it happened, on the contrary, it is seen through retrospective distortion., a distortion resulting from the fact that memory is subject to the overwhelming pressures of belief. Normally, we don’t go back in time to recreate the scene as it originally happened; we look back from our current vantage point and see it as we think it happened.

The past is gone. We can no longer change it. However, we can change our thoughts about the past. We should not punish ourselves in the present moment because someone hurt us in the past. If we choose to believe that we are defenseless victims and that everything is useless, then the Universe will help us in this conviction, and we will go down the drain. We must release these outdated and negative ideas and beliefs that do not support or nurture us. Even our concept of God must be for us, not against us. Living in the present is really for brave people, people who know how to pay the price by letting go of their past and facing reality in front of their eyes. A few months ago I went to a writers’ meeting and someone said: The poet’s most valuable resource is the moment, and I believe so, the moment is the only thing that exists; before and after are the past and the future, hence the verticality of time that some physicists write down.

surrender to what is

—Esteban Seagull, you have the freedom to be yourself, your true self, here and now, and there is nothing that can stop you. It is the law of the seagull, the law that is.

“Joy Savior Seagull”   Richard Bach

I have learned that surrendering to what is, assures me the triumph of all efforts. The universe flows, like a river flows in a perfect field, always changing on its way to the sea from where it comes. Imagine that you have thrown yourself into this river of life from the shore of an old rickety pier, at the end of which is a rope attached to a log that floats in the current. You have decided to plunge into the river of life, you take a deep breath and jump off the dock. But halfway there, before you’d even touched the water, you regretted it. It seemed too drastic, too scary, so you grabbed onto whatever was closest to you and it turned out to be a rope. You are now in the river of life, taken by the rope, floating, but not going anywhere. The current hits you. Your hands are getting tired. You are terrified that the rope might break or slip and you let go. This symbolic rope represents the attachment you have towards the things you believe to be right.

You are afraid that if you let go of your beliefs, they will disappear and you will be left with nothing to validate your existence. Therefore I ask you: where would you be if you let go of the rope that is tied to your belief system? The truth is that you would be in the river of life where you already are anyway. The difference would be that you would no longer be fighting against the current, you would be letting yourself be carried away by it.

You already feel pain in your arms. Your sides ache from fighting so much against the current. Surrender means letting go of the rope. If you let go, you will feel relief; Nothing will hurt anymore, you can swim on your back and look at the sky. You will be able to see the trees go by and the children play on the banks of the river. The same current that hit you before will caress and sustain you. You will be free to swim where you please, on either side of the river, and when you have regained your strength, you can also swim up the river whenever you wish. Your life will have surrendered to the current of the river. If you ever feel afraid, there will always be a rope floating in the water for you to hold on to, from time to time, to face the current so that it will impress you with its strength and affirm in your mind that surrender is A lifestyle.

According to the preceding analysis; If so, the story of your life has been one of alternating between resistance and surrender. When you resist, you suffer, and what you resist is always the natural current of truth; what it is. You are part of the river of life. Little by little, through the eternity of your being, you surrender and flow with life as it is. By surrendering, you discover to your delight, that you are not being tossed around like crazy and thrown in all directions, but are being gently adopted into Mother Nature’s pattern. Surrender allows your will and your strength to flow from the light, from the perfectly designed flow of eternal life. As a result, you will now have the strength of the river current to support your dreams and your strength will be increased many times over.

How will you know that you are not going with the flow, that you are resisting? A device sends alert messages through your system when you forget to give up. The message is pain. Pain will terrify you and drive you to act. To get rid of the pain, discover the cause of your resistance and surrender to it.

Only by accepting and flowing with our own lives, can we begin to know “who we are” as eternal beings. Creating fantasies between the realities of life makes it easier for us to hide our eternal selves. Each of us will be able to discover his eternal identity only if the procedures we use to do so are free of illusion and fantasy.

Always have a creative imagination

There is a reason to live! We can rise above our ignorance. We can discover ourselves as creatures of perfection, intelligence, and skill. We can be free! We can learn to fly!

“Joy Savior Seagull”   Richard Bach

Imagination is more important than knowledge. A human being can achieve what he wants, as long as his desires are sensible and definite, and he puts into it all his capacity to yearn, and all the directed force of his imagination. Creative imagination is useful in good times, but it is essential in times of crisis.

Today more than ever, man must have the ability to face his environment with creative imagination, since we are in a difficult time in which ideas are struggling to overcome resource limitations or crisis conditions, although very few people have been born with extraordinary creative imagination, it is also true that every “normal” person can cultivate and develop this mental faculty in an unlimited way. In principle, we all potentially have that mental capacity, but most have atrophied it due to a lack of application, tending towards conformism, and accepting, without question, the information they receive.

Let’s remember that we live in a society conditioned by regular patterns of information and that people accept them by the “law of least effort” because they simply do not like to think, regardless of other obstacles that also prevent the development of our creativity: Fear of failure, failures in the educational system, preferring criticism, etc. Also because creativity is a way of thinking that is often considered difficult, perhaps because it is contrary to the logical and traditional habits with which we have lived. Creativity implies breaking established routines and patterns, it is observing them from another perspective with an open mind to receive and give new ideas.

Creative thinking maintains a close fight against all commonly accepted traditional prejudices, facts, and concepts. Adolfo Torres indicates that imagination is the most divine of all human qualities, the one that brings him closest to God. I believe so. Just as we train our physical body to keep it in shape, it is also necessary to train and cultivate our creative thinking. You have to stimulate him by presenting him with challenges that demand creative solutions in an appropriate environment. You will need to set aside time to reflect, meditate, and visualize your specific goals or issues. Let’s do our mental workshop to get to the very essence of creative imagination. Let’s also learn and truly develop the habit of using two basic tools: Pencil and paper; We will be surprised by the results obtained.

Plan before you act

—Feder Pablo Seagull, do you want to fly?

“Yes, I want to fly.

Seagull that sees far, flies high.

“Joy Savior Seagull”   Richard Bach

Everything that exists in the physical Universe arose first of all in the mind. Thought is energy, and energy follows thought. Thoughts generate feelings, which generate behaviors. Behaviors have consequences in the physical universe, which in turn will generate new thoughts, which completes the think/feel/act cycle.

Wisdom is the intelligent use of conscious and unconscious knowledge. The experience, associated with a deep internal reflection, will discover the secrets of the Universe, because it is there, inside each one, where they are kept.

Wisdom manifests itself through the sharpness of perception and flexibility of action. If what you are doing does not work, stop, think, analyze, and decide on a new action. Continuing to act in the same way and expecting different results is a manifestation of mental imbalance. Acting can sometimes mean doing nothing. Doing nothing is, on many occasions, doing what needs to be done.

Numerous cases have shown that the most effective people are those who have gotten used to thinking (planning) before acting; who have clearly defined their purposes and directed their efforts toward them and, above all, who know how to respond to unexpected opportunities, capitalizing on them for their benefit. In other words, they are people who have applied their Strategic Planning purposes to their personal lives. And it has to be, because today’s world of rapid change, surprise events, and highly turbulent demands effective, results-oriented people.

always persevere

The doors are only open for those who turn the handle.

Jose Narosky

Perseverance is also an expression of faith to get where you want; it is a positive attitude that translates into dynamic action to move forward with a purpose. Without this ingredient, perseverance will disappear to give way to behavior that, although dynamic in appearance, has no defined purpose.

The secret to cultivating perseverance is knowing what you want and how you hope to achieve it. Remember that to achieve success, all you need is persistence and never, ever think about defeat.

Strategies for spiritual ethical development

Imitate JESUS, “The perfect man “

I would like to know the thoughts of God,

the rest are just details.

Albert Einstein

Jesus is the only perfect model to follow in the development of your life. In Him you can see the manifestation of God’s desire for each of his children; He is the perfect Son, king of kings, lord of lords. Imitating Christ then results in mature, wise, disciplined, and perfect human beings; fully prepared for every good work.

All of God’s creation obeys an exact and perfect design that the Creator specified. It is our responsibility to seek to understand and respect such design; everything that is outside of what is established by God’s design must be restored to that order.

Because God’s work operates fundamentally individually, it is necessary to establish that every project you carry out should focus on your integral development and the harmonious development of your family and your community. Success is measured exclusively in the testimony you are giving in life. Hence, every program in your life will obey the laws of sowing and reaping: Sow truth, reap justice.

God’s goal is for us to be his blessed, happy children; and we have the responsibility to facilitate that each one of his children is a true representative of God in his social circle; This implies not only having information and abiding by what God says, you must also provide yourself with spaces so that what God says is developed; if God says that you are an ambassador, you must provide yourself with an embassy for such a representation to be a reality. God’s vision is communal and should be our rule. What we are in God must be manifested directly in the community in the form of good works. We are the solution that God has given to the problems and social needs of our communities.

God’s jurisdiction is above all human jurisdiction; God is the king of all the earth and it belongs to Him. Our participation is then based on this precept of truth and is done in obedience to all the instructions of the Word of God, which establishes respect and obedience to constitutional laws. of the country and the entity, within the framework of divine justice.

It is important that what has been previously noted is read and reread until it is fully understood. Hence the success of the task we have as children of God.

Always seek harmony with God

Bless, my soul, the Lord, and bless all your being in his holy name. Bless, my soul, the Lord, and do not forget any of his benefits. He is the one who forgives all your iniquities, the one who heals all your ailments; the one who rescues your life from the hole, the one who crowns you with favors and mercies; the one who satisfies your mouth with good so that you rejuvenate like the eagle.

psalm 103

The human being is in permanent search. We look for something that gives us a sense of peace, the eternity of the moment. Although we do not know how to define it, we are constantly heading towards harmony. Try to harmonize with God, with everything and everyone around you, with the rhythm of time and with yourself, then stress will disappear from your life and liberation will pay off. Harmony is the essence of existence.

We are all part of God. Everything we think, say, or do contributes positively or negatively to the harmony we have with the universe. If you experience your existence through fear and disharmony, your contribution will be negative to the vibrational frequency of the universe. But if you live in harmony and respect your relationships with others, if you insist on thinking globally and acting locally with the same coherence, you are contributing to universal success. Universal success and your personal success always go hand in hand because they are interdependent. In days gone by I heard on television that each man is like a cell in nature and that if man got sick, nature got sick too. One is a consequence of another.

Every morning I travel 25 kilometers to my workplace, I find the greatest enjoyment in contemplating the work of God during the twenty minutes of the journey, when the lights intertwine between the clouds and explode in a thousand colors then I think it is the right time to pray. If these shows were given every hundred years, the whole world would be waiting for such an event. But the fact that it happens daily, the fact that it is so common, becomes so daily that we do not pay the slightest attention to it and we lose the opportunity to harmonize ourselves with the work of God. Since when did you last see the stars? When was the last day you sat down to contemplate a sunset? What was the last day you abandoned yourself to God?

A reflection that invites us to abandon ourselves to our Giver of Life, is in Psalm 23 which says:

“The Lord is My Shepherd; I will lack nothing In places of delicate pastures he will make me rest; beside still waters he will shepherd me. He will comfort my soul; he will guide me through paths of justice for his name’s sake. Even if I walk through a valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, because you will be with me; your rod and your staff will give me breath. Table dressings before me in the presence of my distressers. You anoint my head with oil; my cup is overflowing. Certainly good and mercy will follow me all the days of my life; and I will dwell in the house of the Lord for long days.”

Find the moment you like best to pray and harmonize with God. But, be very careful, because you cannot say Our Father; if you do not see all men as your brothers; if you despise them or just ignore them. You cannot say that you are in heaven; if your vision does not see beyond your own nose and what worries you the most are your material goods on earth. You cannot say hallowed be your name; if what you do at every moment is to swear the name of God in vain and you do not consider his holiness because in your life there is the image of a false Christ. You can’t say you will be done if there is a discernment between your will and the will of God and what matters to you is what you want, more than what God has prepared for you. You cannot say give us our daily bread today; if you do not share the bread with the needy; if you don’t dedicate time to your family, parents, and friends; if you do not share the bread of the word with them. You cannot say Forgive our offenses just as we forgive those who offend us; if your life is chained to the labyrinth of guilt/resentment and you are experiencing a permanent offense against justice and charity. You can’t say lead me not into temptation and deliver us from evil; if you fall every time aware that what you do hurts you; if you intentionally enter the maelstrom of evil and injustice and close your eyes so as not to reach out to the forgotten and lost. If you run away from your responsibilities as a man or as a woman in building a better world. You can’t say amen; because you lie if you do not accept all this (Razo, 1997).

constantly meditate

I have no special revelation of God’s will…He reveals Himself to every human being daily, but we close our ears to His still small voice.

 Mahatma Gandhi

Many consider meditation only as a spiritual practice or as a religious matter. And sometimes we find that some sects completely disagree with it and state that it is an inadequate practice of oriental origin or that it is a current of the new age, most of them think more out of ignorance than reasoning about what it is.

However, meditation is useful for many things. To train the mind to focus effectively, to relax the body and mind, and also to connect with ourselves.

But the fundamental thing about meditation is that you come into contact with God. Remember that when you pray, you are speaking to God. When you meditate, you allow God to speak to you. How is this? Experts say that we have around 60,000 (sixty thousand) thoughts a day. If this is so, how then, with our minds busy all the time, can we listen to that still small voice within us?

We must give ourselves at least fifteen minutes a day to completely relax, quiet our thoughts, quiet the mind, and get in touch with God (mystics call it contemplative meditation). By meditating, we will be able to find the answers to the doubts that overwhelm us, the solution to big problems, peace, and serenity. Self-confidence, memory, and stress reduction can all be improved with meditation. We can achieve an improvement in our quality of life with the daily practice of meditation.

Numerous studies have irrefutably demonstrated that when we meditate our limbic system is stimulated, leveling the production of substances known as stress hormones. Relaxation begins with the brain and our endocrine system responds to meditation, favoring the state of the bones, muscles, and internal organs and also balancing the heart rate and breathing rate.

Also when meditating our immune system is stimulated, reinforcing our protection against diseases. In addition to practicing meditation in a relaxed way, we can carry out activities and meditate at the same time, for example, meditation with movement such as Tai Chi, or while doing our job, exercising, or simply walking.

What we have to do is concentrate precisely on that activity, without letting our mind wander. If any thought not related to what we are doing comes up without effort, let that thought go away. Little by little we will learn to focus our minds effectively and clearly on what we are doing. Thus, we obtain the benefits of meditation and by concentrating, we do better what we are doing, with more quality. We will be living and enjoying the present moment, the here and now.

forgive and forgive yourself

If you come to offer, put your offering aside and go reconcile with your brother first.

Jesus of Nazareth

The word forgiveness is made up of two others: For and give. For he who forgives gives more to himself. Forgiving is the path to liberation, the one who authentically frees himself is the one who forgives, driving rancor and revenge out of his soul, passions that debase and consume; they also get rid of the guilt/resentment circle. By forgiving we do not intend to change the past, but we change the present and consequently, the future will be beneficial.

Emmet Fox says in his book The Sermon on the Mount that when we hold a grudge against someone, we are bound to that person by a chain stronger than steel. If we want to separate from that someone, it is best to let go of any negative feelings towards the person and see them as another being on earth.

Forgiveness is an instrument of compassion that frees us from our old hurts and resentments, eliminating the victim complex. The fact of forgiving does not mean that you are condoning the action and even less that you are willing to be hurt again. That’s not what it’s about, although sometimes if you don’t handle the action of forgiving well, you can fall into this situation.

It is very important to also forgive yourself. Sometimes you are very critical and severe with yourself. You must learn to let go of regret and forgive yourself as soon as possible in whatever situation you find yourself in.

How will you know that you have truly forgiven? If you can remember the event and do not feel the slightest pain, discomfort, or any negative feeling, it means that you have already freed yourself from that bondage. Remember that nothing is forgotten, not remembering the event or the grievance is because you have hidden it in the depths of your being so as not to feel pain. However, some events like a song, a similar situation, etc., will make you remember it and it rises to the surface causing you pain, then it is time to use your emotional intelligence and solve it once and for all.

Some steps you can take to forgive are:

1. Consider what circumstance that person lived through to become the way they are, or what situation they would be living through to have done what they did, even intentionally.
2. Consider what part you played or what you did that led to the incident. What was your responsibility in the conflict?
3. Leave the victim role behind and move on with your life.
4. Remember the positive and good things that linked you to that person, the good and beautiful times you spent with him, the moments of mutual love, support, advice, and understanding.
5. Visualize the person who hurt you receiving beautiful gifts, signs of love and forgiveness, achieving their desires, and succeeding.
6. Wish her to find herself, to find her way.
7. Freeing the person with forgiveness is freeing ourselves to live in the present, in the here and now; enjoying life to the fullest.

By keeping that hatred, resentment, resentment or remorse, you are perpetuating your discomfort and gradually consuming yourself, ceasing to enjoy the moment. Every time we remember any episode that causes us pain, we stop living in the here and now. We stop advancing in our personal development and our spiritual growth.

To conclude this section I ask you to remember the Our Father. This prayer that Jesus left us is the most complete prayer I know. Mathematically it is divided into seven conclusive and round statements. But what impacts me the most is the ebb and flow of energy and the situations it causes if we handle this energy properly. Read this sentence carefully: …forgive our offenses, just as we forgive those who offend us. It is observed that the condition to be forgiven is to have forgiven. You need to choose to release the past and forgive everyone, including yourself so that you can receive God’s forgiveness.

Maybe you don’t know how to forgive; maybe you don’t want to forgive, but the mere fact of saying that you are willing to forgive starts the process of forgiveness. And the rest will come in addition, because God will forgive you for the offenses you incur and you are sorry for it.

Have a positive mental attitude, eliminate fear

People succeed more by their attitude than by their aptitude.

Juan Antonio Razo

Within today’s society, we find many people victims of fear. They live in a negative frame of mind that goes beyond what appears on the surface of people with fear. Many people do not dare to face themselves, their problems, and their situation. Faced with fear, if we only approached God, we would live in a new world, even with uncertainty.

Jesus was afraid and told his disciples. She fought him to the point of sweating blood in the orchard. Without that fear, Jesus would not have been an example for us, he would have been just a man and nothing more.

We probably have to deal with fear all our lives. If we wait for our fears to go away before we start doing something, we will never get started. The book of Proverbs mentions a foolish farmer who waited until the sky was completely clear to sow the field. There is almost always at least one cloud in the sky, and those who are used to looking at it are likely to see more. There is no perfect moment, it is only a great excuse and a rational explanation for not moving forward.

Jesus knew that the best way to overcome fear was to look ahead. He had to go to Jerusalem even though he knew what was in store for him; there he declared his identity boldly before his executioners and wept until sweat turned to blood, yet he continued. He faced fear with dignity.

Accepting others, without judging them, without expectations, is something easy to say and difficult to do. Fear is always the problem; love is always the solution. Loving unconditionally means celebrating divine intelligence transcending all fears. It is a constant challenge to the balance of the reason/emotion duality. This balance means living the eternal now, without resentments from the past, or expectations of the future. By loving unconditionally you learn to code the future only as a possibility and not as an expectation. An unfulfilled expectation generates frustration. A possibility, even if it does not materialize, is still a possibility.

Fear is the energy that contracts closes, captures, flees, hides, accumulates, and damages. Love is the energy that expands, opens, emits, remains, reveals, shares, and heals. Fear covers our bodies with clothes, love allows us to remain naked. Fear clings to everything we have; love gives it away Fear forbids, love lets go. Fear hurts, love relieves. Fear attacks, love repairs. What you fear the most is what will torment you, fear will attract it to you like a magnet.

The definition of fear is Expectations and misgivings of future harm. Accept that something bad is going to happen. Deep conviction to failure. Loser attitude. The worst and most negative thing about fear is that it mentally programs the person who suffers it so that the things they fear the most happen to them. This effect of fear is illustrated in the life of Job, according to the Bible, Job was a rich man with a large family, however, he was the victim of great fear, which he explains how he martyred himself.

Because the fear that terrified me has come to me, and what I feared has happened to me. I have not had peace, I was not sure, nor was I resting: nevertheless, trouble came to me (Job: 25-26).

Job’s fear brought defeat, destruction, disease, and disaster to himself, his family, and his possessions. Job experience seems to be the way of life for many people today, who live in fear and fear. When a person is afraid, it is giving him space to create a reality (what he fears) and more fear.

If someone fears…

• If it fails, it will probably fail.
• To a disease, the chances will increase to have it.
• Because you will not like your new project, you will be encouraging it to be so.
• If your decision is not effective, you will be fixing the results beforehand.
• In conflicts with your enemies, you will already be causing a serious conflict.

Finally, when what he feared so much happens, he will end up repeating Job’s words: The fear that terrified me has come upon me, and what I feared has happened to me. It is evident that uncertainty generates fear and this leads to fear. It is the opposite of faith because while faith expresses the certain belief that what we want will happen (which must be good for us and acceptable to others), fear expresses that something bad can happen to us.

Fear is part of life. What are your fears that don’t let you reach your goals? Once you have assimilated that your fears will never go away, how much longer are you willing to stay stuck? I recommend that you chant every morning to strengthen your emotions. Remember that the bird does not sing because it is happy, but it is happy because it sings. When someone asks you how you are, in your mind answer: Full of love, and then you will feel the miracle of this declaration.

Passion is love turned into action. It is the fuel that feeds the engine of creation. It is the change from concepts to experience. Passion is the fire that drives us to express who we are. Never deny passion, because that is equivalent to denying who you are and who you want to be. Passion is the love of doing. To do this is to be experienced.

A positive mental attitude is achieved, not by the external circumstances that are in our midst and which we face, but by internal circumstances related to the power of our mind and our faith. The difference in results will be in the mental attitude assumed before the external circumstances.

Experience has shown that thought is magnetic: If it is positive, it will surely attract positive things; but if it is negative, it will also attract the negative. That is why only those who believe they can succeed because they use their mind, in which they store the resources to succeed. This explains why the vast majority of people live mechanically because they do not know how to think. Please read the following carefully: If you are afraid, act as if you have courage; if you are sad, act as if you are happy; if you have pessimism, act like you have optimism. The mind comes to accept the instructions (to the letter) that are repeatedly given and affirmed; see things with optimism and act as if you already have the win. A positive mental attitude is fortified when we know ourselves and we know our weaknesses and strengths, and thus we have to accept ourselves. To maintain a positive state of mind, I recommend that you know your strengths and weaknesses, always act positively and take advantage of opportunities, think big but with your feet on the ground, always keep thoughts of kindness, love, nobility, and self-improvement; Visualize your goals as if you have already achieved them.

Eliminate guilt and resentment from your life

The less secure a man feels

All the more he will have extreme prejudices.

Clint Eastwood

Examine these expressions carefully and think about how often you use them in your life: What a fool I am! Why the hell did I do this like this? I can’t believe I did this so stupid! Why me, Lord? I’m not very good at these things. I’m no good at this. I’m so clumsy etc. This is guilt talk.

From a very young age, we have heard phrases like these from family and friends, and we constantly repeat them: He’s so silly! Why the hell did he do this? My God, he did it again. I hope he will never be that stupid again! etc. This is talking about resentment that goes hand in hand with guilt. It is the same attitude turned outward. Guilt and resentment are the same diseases: The disappointment within me, for me, and the disappointment within me for you. When you are excessively unhappy with yourself, then you simply take the excess out on others as resentment.

All vices, such as cigarettes, alcohol, and drugs; on the one hand, and food, television, and exaggerated work, on the other; are temporary releases of symptoms of guilt. These vices serve two purposes: They hide us from disease and feed it by giving us something else to be ashamed of. Thus, the syndrome is maintained. We avoid carrying our guilt because we do not consider it as a disease, but rather as a defect within ourselves that we cannot correct. It is easier for us to keep the symptoms distracted because by avoiding them we avoid exposing our pain by realizing that it cannot be cured.

To recognize that there is a disease in you, visualize yourself as you would without suffering from it. You were born pure, perfect, and complete. Every human being is perfect in all of existence. The whole of existence is God: God is perfect. Describing ourselves or others as imperfect is blasphemy committed against the perfect model to which we belong.

There was a time when man was very different from what he is now when he roamed freely. His job in life was simply survival. Over time, man evolved, began to form societies and problems began to arise. Accommodation, food, and defense had to be organized by a leader or a group of leaders. The cooperation of the community was necessary and it was up to these leaders to make it effective. In their primitive minds, fear was the only tool they had. They used the threat of death, pain, and imprisonment to keep the community under their control. As society progressed, it found a more effective method than killing and imprisoning to keep people under the power of the leaders. Leaders learned to create within the minds of the masses: Personal passions with personal executioners. Through indoctrination, the masses slowly became utterly convinced that they were inherently evil and wrong. In the long run, they came to believe that by being left to fend for themselves as best they could, most of what they did would be wrong or stupid, or wicked. After several generations, with this indoctrination, it became very accurate the idea that only with the guidance and leadership of those in power, would individuals be able to lead lives in which they could be successful and enjoy well-being, lives that they would not be destroyed by the evil nature of themselves and others. Before that mass programming, right and wrong simply meant right versus wrong; efficiency versus inefficiency; or the feasible versus the infeasible.

It was through the advent of religion and government, which used guilt as a tool to control the masses, that we learned to conceive of right and wrong as deeply personal and emotional blame. Being right in any case has come to mean giving it validity. This does not mean that your actions or your thoughts are valid, but on the contrary, I am indicating that the personal nature of the game of right and wrong gives you validity or invalidity.

In simple terms, we have been told that we cannot be trusted to be exactly who we are. We must be disciplined, cared for, and watched, otherwise, we would not be a society of model citizens! Most of us believe, that because man’s nature is weak and dishonest, we must have external control of the police and military and internal controls of implanted guilt.

We have transmitted the disease of guilt through the centuries. We have learned that guilt is a correct way of thinking, a correct way of being, and a necessary tool to educate our children. Many Christian sects are not ashamed to preach that people are born wicked and that only by accepting Jesus Christ as their personal savior can they be freed from their own wickedness. Yet in the Scriptures, Jesus constantly reminds us that our only sin is the guilt that separates us from unity with the whole of life: God.

We are born to fly. We are born to soar in the summer breeze. We are born to play, to laugh like children. We were born to create beauty and harmony by weaving delicately balanced designs with each other; the perfect tapestry of human life on planet Earth. Most human beings have lost confidence in themselves and others. We have lost the ability to see ourselves as people. Instead, each of us fixates our attention on our abilities and inabilities. We fill the terrible void that comes from not facing God, pretending to be great: great clothes, great cars. We talk and walk the same way. We don’t want people to notice that confusion, that loneliness, and that fear of penetrating the deep well of our being.

No one is exempt from the chaotic results of mass guilt, and each has a responsibility to eradicate it from our lives and our society. We must work together with the conviction that future generations can live in a society that encourages and exalts the personal magnificence of man, instead of a society that doubts and protects him against imaginary evils. There is only one way to get rid of guilt. We must change the programmed tapes of our subconscious and this requires dedication and perseverance. Guilt is a disease that you or I program among those around us. We find the vulnerability in other people and use subtle guilt barbs to manipulate them.

How do you manipulate other people with guilt? What are your favorite blame games? You will never honestly answer this question until you have accepted yourself as someone who manipulates others. If you don’t view being a manipulator or using guilt as an instrument of manipulation, it will be impossible for you to effect change. Your manipulative actions will continue. What resists, persists. That’s what makes it hard to cure guilt. However, we can begin to heal when we are willing to accept that we are guilty and that as such, we come to catch guilt like a disease.

An important aspect of guilt is that it is always accompanied by resentment. Guilt is not only a contagious disease, it is a disease whose symptoms are felt only as a reaction to someone. One feels guilt as a result of unfulfilled expectations imposed by oneself or by others. When self-imposed, these expectations represent views of people who are or have been important to that person.

God’s expectations, since they are not explained by the so-called representatives of God, are that we must behave in a certain way. When we do not meet these expectations; we grieve and anger God, incurring a debt of guilt that causes a secondary reaction, a sense of resentment toward God for making us feel guilty. And as the vicious cycle continues, what can make us feel more guilty than resentment towards God himself? So the third reaction is guilt again. The same conditions exist concerning our parents, the guardians of order, teachers, ministers, priests, friends, relatives, etc.

Now that you’re aware of the guilt/resentment relationship, think about the people you’ve programmed to blame and recognize that each of them has a resentment toward you, equal in size to the guilt that caused it. A man who locks all his gates and doors and employs a gigantic guard dog to guard his possessions is a man convinced that deep within him, there is a penchant for stealing the belongings of others. He is only projecting what he feels about himself. A society unable to trust itself, full of guilty people, must be defended, not against natural actions and reactions, but against perverse reactions that come from programmed wickedness and wickedness.

What if you looked back and saw all those chaotic incidents as imperfect steps toward your awakening? What if you abolished the language of failure from those experiences and recognized them as triumphs? Wouldn’t you then be able to find yourself and consider your magnificence, instead of creating your imaginary sleaze? By concentrating on your magnificence, you could begin to reprogram your subconscious and your life, towards magnificent achievements.

It takes courage to challenge life, knowing that the possibility of failure exists. It’s so much easier to pretend to be downtrodden to the point that no one will expect you to succeed and then no one will blame you if you fail. The challenge I offer you contains infinite personal opportunities and requires a monumental task. At this point in man’s evolution, we are recognizing that much of the previous programming of the human mind is contrary to our personal and global goals.

The light, which is the source of life, will then lose its opacity and become clear. We will see ourselves as eternal beings and recognize our place in eternity. We will enjoy excellent health because we will no longer need to suffer. The imaginary loneliness will disappear and we will be lulled to sleep by hundreds of loving people around us. We will recognize death as the birth to a better one and we will obtain peace and confidence, freeing ourselves from the deadly grip with which guilt has strangled our lives.

Stay away from addictions

The philosophy of my life always

it has been that the difficulties vanish

when bravely faced.

Isaac Asimov

The wounded child that underlies us is an important cause of addictive behavior. If we realize that our wounded child is behind the compulsive/addictive behavior, we can look at addiction in a much larger context. An addiction is pathologically related to any form of mood disturbance that has detrimental consequences for life. All-you-can- eat addictions are the most dramatically mood-altering. Alcohol, drugs, and food all have the inherent potential to cause mood disturbances. But there are different ways in which feelings can be upset.

Addictive behaviors include work, shopping, gambling, sex, and religious rituals. Any activity can be used to alter feelings because they are distracting. Cognitive activities are a powerful way to avoid feelings. All addictions have a rational component called obsession. The feelings themselves can be addictive. You can be addicted to anger. Anger disguises pain and shame. When you take courage, you feel strong; beyond vulnerable and powerless.

You probably know someone addicted to fear. Fear addicts tend to imagine catastrophes and disasters everywhere. They are always worried and drive other people crazy.

Some are addicted to sadness and/or sorrow. They seem not to feel sad; They are sad. For a sadness addict, it becomes his very way of being. The people who worry me the most are the joy addicts, I mean the good children forced to constantly smile and be happy. It’s as if the smile has frozen on his face. Joy addicts never see anything wrong. They smile as they tell that their mother passed away. They are a paradox!

Objects can also create addictions. Money is the most common. However, any object can become a concern and is therefore a source of mood disturbance. At the bottom of most addictions, no matter what genetic factors are involved is the wounded child of childhood, who constantly longs for the satisfaction of her needs. It doesn’t take a long time for an addict to observe his behavior.

The addictions that have most diminished human beings are alcohol and drugs. Seneca, the contemporary Roman philosopher of Jesus Christ, said: Drunkenness is simply voluntary madness. Nearly two thousand years later, Bertrand Russell added: Drunkenness is temporary suicide… the joy it brings is merely negative, a momentary cessation of unhappiness. Alcohol and drug abuse have become a national tragedy, but for me, it is a symptom of an even greater malaise, however, there is an open door to this type of addiction and others like it. However, the beliefs of your social circle can negatively influence your restoration. It is often mentioned that no one manages to escape from the clutches of drugs and alcohol, and I assure you otherwise. Víctor was expelled from high school for carrying drugs inside the facilities, but that was not the most serious thing, what was truly worrying was that to stay “happy” he resorted to “challenges” that gradually created a social psychosis that forced him to leave school. where he lived with his family. Upon arriving at the University, he was calm, but no. He kept in his heart guilt and resentment that made him feel unhappy. When Victor understood that accepting, acknowledging, loving, and supporting himself would lead him to happiness, then he made the decision to be a new man and is currently enthusiastic about his personal development. These days he visited his place of origin and was surprised that the people who rejected him are now surprised by the decision that Victor made: to be better every day consequently he is accepted by them.

We use drink to escape depression, however, what we need is to find a way to deal with it, using positive thinking with courage and creativity. During the last decades, prescription drugs have been used to control the symptoms of depression; When prescribed by reputable psychiatrists, they can be safe to use and help in the treatment of anxiety; Due to the rapid increase in popularity of these drugs, they are being consumed without a prescription. To escape depression, people are taking downers, stimulants, and antidepressants like cookies.

The dangerous thing about tranquilizers is that whatever peace of mind they provide is artificial peace of mind. When we buy a pill to achieve peace, we trust in cheap solutions, instead of deep solutions. Another cheap but wrong way to escape depression is television addiction; The world is becoming addicted to television, it is using it irresponsibly as a means of evading reality and its effects on it are extremely delicate because it contaminates human beings with a series of harmful information that is sown in his mind, most of the time definitively.

However, what happens out there is not as important as what happens in your life and mine. How do you handle your own mistakes and the depression that surely follows?

Stay away from depression

A brave heart will always overcome all difficulties.

Anonymous

Reality does not match our dreams and consequently, we despair. So, to cope with our depression, we start to think and act destructively. As a result, our lives spiral downward, until there seems to be no way we can ever get up again. There is a tremendous temptation to suffer in silence. Our pride won’t let us admit the truth. We don’t want people to know that we failed. In the Orient, for example, not losing face is everything. The British say: Keep your upper lip firm. It’s a Mexican macho myth that men don’t cry. I don’t know anyone who likes to see themselves in conflict.

It’s easier, at least at first, to pretend that everything is fine. Our misfortune becomes a terrible secret. We build walls around ourselves and avoid those who might sympathize with us or even help us. Like a sick animals, we scurry around and hope to get better.

Are you like that? When your dreams are threatened and you are lost in a fog of despair, do you become silent and withdraw from everyone? Do you just hang around, smiling valiantly, pretending nothing is wrong when in reality the whole world is collapsing on your head? What happens when your dreams die and depression takes over you? Some people respond to the cycle of failure and depression in fairly predictable ways. At first, they are tempted to deny what happened or ignore it. So they try to blame him or blame others. They invariably try to avoid it. Some become immobilized by depression. Others do desperate and destructive things to put an end to it. Still, others continue to live forever in despair. Finally, others just sit and die,

Does all this sound familiar to you? We can’t help ourselves while pretending to be okay. And no one can help us when we don’t admit that we have that need. It is particularly sad that in our society (where love should prevail), so many people put on a heavenly face when in reality they live in hell. Depression cannot be treated as long as we deny or ignore it. The beginning of the end of that fight is to admit that you are fighting, first for yourself and then, little by little, for those people you trust to walk with you on the road to recovery.

I know that our lives go through moments of great tragedies and terrible suffering. I don’t believe in putting on a good face when it’s time to mourn. Denying our depression, masking it, or trying to escape it forever leads to misfortune. There are certain dreams that, if they die, cannot be dreamed of again. When they die, all we can do is cry and wait for the tears to stop; until somehow, God gives us the courage to dream again.

But we must not give in to grief or let our failures and disappointments victimize us. Pessimism is a dangerous disease that can stifle or kill our human potential. We must convey hope, never despair. Let’s share our joys, not our sorrows. I think it’s good to tell over and over again the works of God in men and women I know, who got up from a deep depression, to love and dream again. If our dreams don’t come true, if depression blocks our steps, we must remember that there is always hope.

What a waste to get drunk to death during the black night of the depression, when the sunrise may be about to happen. I hope that my next words do not sound too exaggerated optimism, because, in the course of my life, I have learned that there is indeed a little light at the end of almost all tunnels, as Carlos Pellicer insinuates in one of his poems. Rainbows come out after almost every storm. Tears will probably turn to laughter. Mourning will one day succumb to joy. Until now, after my forty-six years of living on this planet, after a long and black night, I have seen the sunrise to warm my life again.

After the crucifixion comes the resurrection. After death, life comes. After despair comes hope. Depression tricks us into thinking it will never end. In reality, the end of your depression may well be right around the corner. I am in no way minimizing depression and the terror that comes with it. I have great sympathy for people who suffer hopelessness and deprivation through their private nightmares. Concerned family or friends can be like God-sends along the way. But if we succumb to depression, if we commit suicide or settle for a miserable living death, we will lose the opportunity that depression gives us.

In our times of suffering, God prepares us to help others we will meet along the way. When our dreams die, God gives us the strength to be there helping our brothers and sisters when they lose their dreams. These times are hard. Our dreams are threatened by forces beyond our control. Sometimes we lose the battle, but together we will win the war, with the help of others we will learn to dream again, and then someday, when we least expect it, we will be surprised to see those dreams come true.

Eliminate stress from your life

If you do not contribute to the solution of the problem,

then you are part of it.

 Chinese Proverb

We live in a society where 60% of visits to the doctor are due to stress problems rather than specific diseases. It is a society of stress, where the most prescribed medicines are tranquilizers. Stress is the result, among other factors, of the pressures that people are subjected to in their excessive desire to obtain achievements, solve problems, and many other things. Some studies show the effect that stress has on health. Our defenses go down and our body becomes more prone to diseases. Hate, resentment, guilt, resentment, and remorse are some feelings that cause stress, which if they become perennial can cause us illnesses and even serious illnesses, such as cancer, heart disease, colitis, etc.

The main source of psychological stress exerted on people derives from the way they treat their own feelings and attitudes, as a result of internal conflicts that are generated by a wide variety of external stressful situations. It is then, in the internal world of each man, where the heart of the problem truly appears.

It can almost be asserted that people live with stress and in stress when they do not value the meaning and objective of true rest. A principle that is not well understood by society.

Let’s turn to what God says through the Bible to understand how we can handle stress in our lives. To do this, read this verse:

And God finished on the seventh day the work that he had done, and he rested on the seventh day from all the work that he did. And God blessed the seventh day and sanctified it because in it he rested from all the work that he had done in creation  (Genesis 2:23).

That is rhythm and harmony, the same characteristics of everything that the Lord has created. There is no doubt that when God contemplated his handiwork, he pondered it and pondered its meaning and purpose. God thus gave meaning and purpose to his work and with it set a precedent so that man also needed that rest, that the seventh day closes a mini cycle of his life.

The break is not only to reflect on the meaning of work and the path of life but also to refresh my belief in and commitment to Christ. It is a break to refine my internal navigation instruments, in such a way that I am prepared to return to the world for another week, to be fruitful creators… in short, to justify our very existence.

There is no doubt that the rest that God suggests has nothing to do with the current theory of physical leisure, but is a rest to reach the depths of our being, precisely there, where spiritual fatigue is never reached by those articles and activities produced and aimed at overcoming physical leisure. The rest prescribed by God is what allows us to rebuild our inner world; it is the rest that brings us peace, enthusiasm, and life in abundance.

At present, we have heard that children also suffer from stress and what is worse, they also suffer from depression. Wasn’t this common only in adults? And we continue to wonder where future generations will end up, if, parallel to progress and civilization, depressions are the order of the day. Sometimes when the world seems to be against you it’s hard to keep your mental balance. For some it is impossible. Then comes the nervous breakdown.

If the problem persists in the mind, even anxiety will appear, sleep will be disturbed, work in the office or the factory will yield less due to lack of concentration or mental quality, appetite, and weight will decrease, and perhaps it will give rise to impulses of anxiety. suicides. The chances of suicide, however, can get in the way of the recovery process^.

It is well known that as we grow we must mature mentally and this is reflected in our behavior, this does not mean that we lose our sense of humor or our capacity for wonder; maturity is shown when we have faced a problem and we apply equanimity and other virtues that we must have.

always say thank you

Pray always. Prayer has incalculable power.

Jackson Brown Jr.

We must give thanks to reinforce and elevate the functioning of our lives. Gratitude is the mother of all other feelings. In general, we claim what we do not have and would like to have, or what we had and lost. It is rare to find someone who gives thanks for what he has, or for what he does not have and would not like to have. There is a great shortage of gratitude in the world of human beings. This lack of gratitude creates imbalance and unhappiness in our lives. Give thanks to God every day for what you have and would like to have and God will continue to provide you not only with that but also with things that you don’t have and don’t know yet that you would like to have. Every morning give thanks to God for what he has given you and for what he has prepared for you.

I recommend that you wake up very early in the morning and give yourself a sunrise as a gift. Observe the multicolored explosion of lights that the aurora offers you. Hear how the birds thank God before you. Feel how the breeze caresses your body and savor the aroma of the flowers. In this way, when you see so much gratuitousness from God, you will most certainly smile and say: Thank you, Lord, thank you, and in this way, you are already beginning to say the prayer of the day.

live with enthusiasm

For a joyful soul, the world is full of interesting things.

 Alexandra Stoddard

Enthusiasm is derived from two Greek words: En and theos, which means: God within you, or filled with God. The longer I live, the more I confirm that enthusiasm is the little-recognized secret to success. The true difference in ability, ability, and intelligence between those who succeed and those who fail is usually minimal. But if two men are on an equal footing, the man enthusiastically has the scales in his favor. Enthusiasm is an unlimited internal force; it is the emotional energy of the heart and reason. It is emotional because it makes us vibrate and act decisively; it is from the heart because it gives us internal joy; and it is of the reason because it makes us act towards where we want, towards our objectives.

Enthusiasm is an attitude and behavior that we can acquire at any time or any age, not in the form of an elixir, but through positive mental activity and the desire to conquer. When you lack enthusiasm act as if you have it. Remember that the source of enthusiasm is with yourself and it is revitalized with a positive mental attitude, perseverance, and the achievements that are achieved on the way to reach the destination that you have determined. Enthusiasm does not germinate where there is hatred, pessimism, and destructive ideas; then you have to modify that behavior, recognizing your strengths and your weaknesses.